All misbehavior has underlying reasons. In order to prevent a recurring behavior problem, try to discover the underlying need. When the need is satisfied, the behavior usually subsides. Here are some reasons to consider:

PHYSICAL

1. Hungry
2. Tired
3. Ill
4. Reaction to weather
5. Physically stressful situations
   
   

COGNITIVE

1. Curiosity
2. Lack of understanding
3. Lack of knowledge
4. Lack of experience or training
5. Frustration from inability to do a task
6. Child wants to be helpful, but isn't skilled enough to do it well.
7. Bored
   
   

EMOTIONAL

1. Attention (Feels invisible, apart. Needs love, belonging, significance, recognition)
2. Power (Feels bossed, angry. Needs independence, choices, to be responsible for own choices within limits)
3. Revenge (Feels embarrassed, hurt. Needs respect, fairness, companioning)
4. Display of inadequacy. (Feels inferior, hopeless, incapable. Needs patient teaching, realistic expectations, opportunities for success, trust in self, capability, to feel as good as others, attitude that mistakes are opportunities for learning)
5. Scared, fearful, anxious ( Needs to be protected, to have the safety of clear boundaries, consistency)
6. Situational stress, tension (Needs understanding, loving support, companioning, assurance that its not his fault)
   
   

SPIRITUAL

1. Meaninglessness--Needs to know: What is the purpose of life?
2. Insignificant--Needs to know: What are my special gifts?
3. Aimlessness--Needs to know: What is my particular contribution in this world?
4. Separateness--Needs to know: How can I feel at peace with others? That I belong?
   

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